by Oscar Francis
We’ve all been there. The first day at school or a new job is horrible. You feel like everyone’s watching and judging you. It’s even worse when this is combined with a new living situation. It’s like being the new kid on the bus, but on a bumper-load of steroids. The good news is that nearly everyone is in the same boat. So don’t worry, and read on to find out how to make the most of what can sometimes be a bumpy ride.
Don’t be afraid to branch out If you already have an established group of friends that you’re arriving with, don’t stick to your clique.You should be afraid of missing out on building new connections which might last you a lifetime. Make the most of your new social opportunity.
Everyone loves having their name remembered. When you’re talking to someone for the first time, try to use their name at least three times in your conversation, it will help you remember it.
Stand up to bullies
It might seem scary to go against the crowd. But people will be impressed by your willingness to back yourself. Even when you get pushback in the short term, in the long run people will gravitate towards people who stand up for what’s right.
Ask people out (platonically)
Asking other people to do things is a great way to build connections and friendships. Getting creative with activities is a stellar way to get to know people and make marvellous memories
Bring others up
Don’t put people down — bring them up instead. If you’re a positive presence, you’ll probably be popular.
Respect other people
Treat people how you want to be treated. Also, respect that other people come from different backgrounds and have different experiences. Don’t assume you know people’s stories. If people find you disrespectful and dismissive, you’re probably going to miss out on a whole bunch of interesting experiences and individuals. Be humble, and remember that self awareness is a constant work in process.
Don’t worry about it
If you don’t fit in, don’t sweat it. Tonnes of people go through their hall experience and still feel like a square peg in a round hole. Don’t despair, you’ll find your people eventually — you might have to look a bit further afield, but they’re out there. The wait will be worth it. But look after yourself in the meantime.